October 13, 2009
Central Truth
When we follow our own instincts, the result is relational and spiritual death. But when we base our relationships and our entire lives on God’s wisdom, we enjoy “well[s] of fresh water” now and prepare ourselves for eternal life with God forever.
You are a garden spring,
a well of fresh water flowing down from Lebanon.
(Song of Solomon 4:15)
1
Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
behold, you are beautiful!
Your eyes are doves
behind your veil.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
leaping down the slopes of Gilead.
2
Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes
that have come up from the washing,
all of which bear twins,
and not one among them has lost its young.
3
Your lips are like a scarlet thread,
and your mouth is lovely.
Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate
behind your veil.
4
Your neck is like the tower of David,
built in rows of stone;
1
4:4
The meaning of the Hebrew word is uncertain
on it hang a thousand shields,
all of them shields of warriors.
5
Your two breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle,
that graze among the lilies.
6
Until the day breathes
and the shadows flee,
I will go away to the mountain of myrrh
and the hill of frankincense.
7
You are altogether beautiful, my love;
there is no flaw in you.
8
Come with me from Lebanon, my bride;
come with me from Lebanon.
Depart
2
4:8
Or Look
from the peak of Amana,
from the peak of Senir and Hermon,
from the dens of lions,
from the mountains of leopards.
9
You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride;
you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes,
with one jewel of your necklace.
10
How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
11
Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
12
A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
a spring locked, a fountain sealed.
13
Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
with all choicest fruits,
henna with nard,
14
nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all choice spices—
15
a garden fountain, a well of living water,
and flowing streams from Lebanon.
16
Awake, O north wind,
and come, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden,
let its spices flow.
Let my beloved come to his garden,
and eat its choicest fruits.
Women dream of romance and weddings. Men focus on sex and . . . well, sex. Young love and pulsing hormones are the rationale for countless novels, movies, and ballads. And at first glance, Song of Solomon chapter four might seem simply to be following this grand literary tradition. But God does not stoop to cheap tricks. He’s certain to have a good reason for preserving this steamy story for us.
Beginning with the first and only perfect marriage in Genesis 2:23-25, God’s intention was that a husband and wife share intimate pleasure. For Solomon and his beloved on their wedding night, there was certainly no need to encourage them—they’d both been dreaming of this moment for years. So what’s the point of the story—what can we learn?
It’s what’s left unsaid here that’s the denouement and turns the ecstasy and promise of this idyllic scene into a prelude to tragedy. By the end of his life, Solomon’s single-minded focus on his beloved had dissipated to include 1,000 wives and concubines. Not surprisingly, his family and the nation were a dysfunctional mess. (1 Kings 11)
As with most things in God’s economy, the path to exhilarating and lasting intimacy is counterintuitive. Ironically, Solomon’s own words bluntly express this; negatively in Proverbs 14:12 and again in 16:25: “There is a way that seems right to a person, but its end is the way that leads to death.” And then positively in Proverbs 5:18b-19 (NASB): “[R]ejoice in the wife of your youth. . . . Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; be exhilarated always with her love.”
What went wrong in Solomon’s first of many marriages? Surely not the wedding night—that was virtually perfect. Could it be that he was more in love with love (like our culture) than he was with his beloved? Apparently Solomon failed to heed his own God-inspired wisdom that would have allowed him to continue enjoying that “well of fresh water” for decades to come.
1. Consider what insight Ephesians 5:22-33 offers husbands and wives desiring to grow in their intimacy as they move through life together. Focus on the nuances of the superlative comparisons of Christ’s love for the church (5:25) and a man’s love for his own body (5:28).
2. In what ways can our passion and devotion to our beloved all too easily devolve into inappropriate fantasies, preoccupation, monotony, or even a flesh-and-blood romance? Check out Matthew 5:27-28, Romans 13:14, and James 1:13-15.