September 18, 2018

Don't Just Get Together, Be Devoted!

Romans 12:10

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10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

In Context:

5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. 6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; 7 if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; 8 the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness. 9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. 14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Don't Just Get Together, Be Devoted!

Bio | Daniel Milner

Hi, guys! I'm Daniel. By the time you read this, my wife Nikkie and I will have been married for 11 years (man, that went by quick). During that time, God has faithfully provided us with devoted men and women in our community and blessed us with three amazing kiddos in Julia, Matthew, and Ryan. 

God has blessed me beyond measure by showing me firsthand that Proverbs 31, Psalm 127:3-5, and Romans 8:1-2 are absolutely true.

Central Truth

God doesn't call us to just coexist with each other. He calls us to actively love and be devoted to one another.

Devotional | Romans 12:10

What does it mean to be devoted to something? Olympic athletes have to be devoted to their training to compete at a world-class level. If you work late to finish a project before a deadline, your...

What does it mean to be devoted to something? Olympic athletes have to be devoted to their training to compete at a world-class level. If you work late to finish a project before a deadline, your boss may consider you a devoted employee. If you're married, you may refer to your spouse as devoted—in love and in service.

While these examples are all different, the idea of devotion is similar. They all require a significant investment of time and a degree of self-sacrifice. What I love about today's verse, though, is that it calls us to live in devotion toward one another as believers in Christ.  

One of the Greek words used in today's verse is philostorgoi, which means to "be devoted" or show "brotherly affection," just as we would to someone in our family. This, too, requires an investment of time. It takes time and effort to call friends and ask how their week is going. It takes time to keep up with friends well enough to know what is happening in their life and what they are excited, anxious, or frustrated about.

What an amazing gift that God calls us to live this way toward one another! We are called not just to coexist with each other, but to be devoted to one another in brotherly love!

If you're not living in devotion with one another in biblical community, today is your day! Take one step toward living in community and discover firsthand that God's Word is true when it says, "Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!" (Psalm 133:1)

If you're in biblical community already, today is your day, too! Call some of your community group members and ask how you can pray for them (and then actually pray for them). You'll discover the most important things on their heart and have the privilege of petitioning the God of the universe on their behalf!

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Discussion Questions

1. If you're not in biblical community, what is one step you can take today to move toward living with other believers in Christ in such a way that you devote yourself to one another in brotherly love? Examples of next steps might include registering for Community Formation, becoming a member of your local church, or asking someone at church for help if you don't know where to start.

2. If you are in biblical community today, what excuses do you make for not devoting yourself to loving the people in your community? Do you need to ask forgiveness from anyone for any of these excuses? What's one thing you can do today to be more faithful to live out Romans 12:10 and be devoted to one another in brotherly love?

4 Comments available

Sue Bohlin about 9 hours ago

Thanks so much for your devo, Daniel! I know how important biblical community is to you and Nikkie.

I enjoyed digging into the Greek on this verse and learning that the word translated as “outdoing one another” literally means “to go before and show the way, to go before and lead, to go before as a leader.” So it’s a picture of being the first to honor others. Which is pretty cool because honoring others can be contagious–often, we just need to see what it looks like when someone else does it!

P.S. Thank you SO MUCH to all those who prayed for me! My surgery went very well when there was a chance it would be a complicated mess. I’m giving lots of thanks for pain meds today and looking forward to working on walking again.

Hope Harris about 12 hours ago

GM JTJ peeps! over the last few weeks I have been teaching on assertive vs aggressive communication. One of things that stood out to me last night is respect =deferring to the other person and seeking to understand where the other person is coming from.

I find myself more aware these days of when I want to be right, rather than valuing the person right in front of me.

I also agree that time spent with someone in our circle is a true form of devotion

Lindsey Driscoll about 14 hours ago

Praise the Lord for his word as his sovereign timing! I am planning to meet up with my little brother today, and have not done so one on one since my older brothers death 6 weeks ago. Praying that I would be devoted to him, praying for his salvation, and sharing the gospel with him. Verse 12:10 calls us to devotion and honor of others above self. I fall short on this so often. Honoring above self is a concept that stands in opposition to the selfish heart. Praying for heart change today.

Hugh Stephenson about 16 hours ago

GM Daniel! Excellent devo. I love the idea of asking a friend “What is the most important thing on your heart today?”

We learn of 59 “one another” verses in the NT, (

Two of these we see here.

Years ago, I learned that time spent with our sons often needed to involve a “third object”, i.e., watching sports or walking the dog. This was pre-salvation so I never thought about Bible reading and discussion. A huge lost opportunity.

Coaching their teams, running errands together etc were all important. My sorrow is not honoring God and helping them by discipling them.

Paul does not talk about a third object. The encouragement is to love as brothers. Period.

“Honor” is timē. I like the definitions of “esteem, deference and reverence”. How would I feel if this is how someone treated me? Wow. In a word, loved. Really loved.

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