October 12, 2009
Central Truth
God gave us the gift of sex. However, it is only to be opened within the covenant of marriage.
"Do not awake or arouse love until it pleases!"
(Song of Solomon 3:5b)
1
On my bed by night
I sought him whom my soul loves;
I sought him, but found him not.
2
I will rise now and go about the city,
in the streets and in the squares;
I will seek him whom my soul loves.
I sought him, but found him not.
3
The watchmen found me
as they went about in the city.
“Have you seen him whom my soul loves?”
4
Scarcely had I passed them
when I found him whom my soul loves.
I held him, and would not let him go
until I had brought him into my mother's house,
and into the chamber of her who conceived me.
5
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
by the gazelles or the does of the field,
that you not stir up or awaken love
until it pleases.
6
What is that coming up from the wilderness
like columns of smoke,
perfumed with myrrh and frankincense,
with all the fragrant powders of a merchant?
7
Behold, it is the litter
1
3:7
That is, the couch on which servants carry a king
of Solomon!
Around it are sixty mighty men,
some of the mighty men of Israel,
8
all of them wearing swords
and expert in war,
each with his sword at his thigh,
against terror by night.
9
King Solomon made himself a carriage
2
3:9
Or sedan chair
from the wood of Lebanon.
10
He made its posts of silver,
its back of gold, its seat of purple;
its interior was inlaid with love
by the daughters of Jerusalem.
11
Go out, O daughters of Zion,
and look upon King Solomon,
with the crown with which his mother crowned him
on the day of his wedding,
on the day of the gladness of his heart.
When I was in the 8th grade, my youth group and I attended a local conference called "True Love Waits." The conference talked a lot about what the Bible says regarding sex before marriage and why it is so important to God that you wait until you are married to share that gift with your husband. There was one point in the conference when commitment cards were passed out. Those cards were used to make a a commitment with both our future spouse and God that we would wait until marriage to unwrap the gift of sex that the Lord has given us.
The commitment I made that day in the 8th grade is the same commitment that Solomon addresses in chapter 3. The Bible is pretty clear on where the line is with sexual integrity: sex is a great gift from God, but to only be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage. In 1 Corinthians 6:18-19, Paul talks about fleeing from sexual immorality. Paul also states that we should honor our body as a temple of the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthians 6:19) Putting our own selfish desires above God's commandment and doing what we want with our body will only lead to destruction and a lot of pain and hurt. Unfortunately, this is a road that many people choose to take. Here's the good news: no matter what sexual sin you have walked through, nothing is too big for the redemption of Christ's blood on the cross. He offers His gift of forgiveness for free.
I will never forget my wedding day when I walked down the aisle and pledged my love and commitment to my husband and to God. That commitment was to love and cherish my husband until "death do us part," but it was also a celebration of the commitment I had made to my husband and to God back in the 8th grade . . . and it was worth the wait!
1. Why would God give us the gift of sex but withhold it from us until marriage?
2. Have you ever received God's gift of forgiveness for past sexual sin in your life?
3. When Paul talks about "fleeing from sexual immorality" in 1 Corinthians 6:18, what does that mean?
4. If you are not already married, are you willing to wait for God's best?