January 27, 2022

Full Devotion is the Standard, but God Can Restore When We Fall Short

Matthew 19

Ryan Nixon
Thursday's Devo

January 27, 2022

Thursday's Devo

January 27, 2022

Central Truth

When Jesus is asked about divorce, He points back to God's high call on marriage, which is FULL DEVOTION. And because of the gospel and God's Word, Spirit, and people, even the most broken relationship can experience restoration!

Key Verse | Matthew 19:4-6

He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."

Matthew 19

Teaching About Divorce

Now when Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away from Galilee and entered the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. And large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.

And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” 1 19:9 Some manuscripts add and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery; other manuscripts except for sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery

10 The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” 11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. 12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”

Let the Children Come to Me

13 Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, 14 but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” 15 And he laid his hands on them and went away.

The Rich Young Man

16 And behold, a man came up to him, saying, “Teacher, what good deed must I do to have eternal life?” 17 And he said to him, “Why do you ask me about what is good? There is only one who is good. If you would enter life, keep the commandments.” 18 He said to him, “Which ones?” And Jesus said, “You shall not murder, You shall not commit adultery, You shall not steal, You shall not bear false witness, 19 Honor your father and mother, and, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 20 The young man said to him, “All these I have kept. What do I still lack?” 21 Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” 22 When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.

23 And Jesus said to his disciples, “Truly, I say to you, only with difficulty will a rich person enter the kingdom of heaven. 24 Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.” 25 When the disciples heard this, they were greatly astonished, saying, “Who then can be saved?” 26 But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” 27 Then Peter said in reply, “See, we have left everything and followed you. What then will we have?” 28 Jesus said to them, “Truly, I say to you, in the new world, 2 19:28 Greek in the regeneration when the Son of Man will sit on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands, for my name's sake, will receive a hundredfold 3 19:29 Some manuscripts manifold and will inherit eternal life. 30 But many who are first will be last, and the last first.

Footnotes

[1] 19:9 Some manuscripts add and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery; other manuscripts except for sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery
[2] 19:28 Greek in the regeneration
[3] 19:29 Some manuscripts manifold

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Dive Deeper | Matthew 19

There are so many amazing topics we could discuss today—from childlike faith to our own "rich young ruler challenge": what is the one thing keeping us from experiencing the fullness of God's kingdom right now?

But today I want to focus on Matthew 19:1-12. Many view this passage as Jesus' teaching on divorce. But I believe this is better described as His teaching on God's vision for marriage.

Yes, Jesus is asked questions about divorce, but He answers them by reminding the Pharisees and others listening that God's original vision for marriage is one man and one woman, coming together as one in a life-long, covenant commitment. What God joined together, man was not to separate. Jesus reminded them that their reason for originally asking Moses for permission to divorce was the hardness of their own hearts.

The focus of this passage isn't divorce, nor an "exception" in Matthew 19:9 to justify divorce, but God's high call of FULL DEVOTION in marriage. Also, as we look at God's teaching on marriage throughout Scripture (see the passages cited in the pastoral statement here), this call for FULL DEVOTION is even more clear.

If your marriage involves divorce, hardness of hearts, sexual immorality, or anything else, I want you to know two things. Because of the gospel: 

  1. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ. (Romans 8:1)
  2. There is hope (Hebrews 10:23), healing (James 5:16), restoration from sin (Galatians 6:1-10), and reconciliation of relationship (2 Corinthians 5:16-21).

For years I have seen this happen by the power of God's Word, Spirit, and people. I have had a front-row seat to watching God soften hearts previously hardened by sin. I stand as witness to the truth that when two individuals allow Christ to soften, heal, and change their hearts, there is no marriage that cannot be restored.

I want to invite you to be reminded of the hope and healing found in Christ by joining us or listening to others tell their story of restoration toward full devotion at re|engage.

So, whether your marriage is good and you want it to be great, or you're headed for divorce and need restoration, re|engage is a safe place to grow in your marriage.

Discussion Questions

1. What is a way you have seen Jesus restore or heal a conflict in your marriage?

2. For those who are not married, how have you seen Jesus restore or heal a conflict in a friendship or business relationship?

3. Looking at Matthew 19:13-15, what do you believe Jesus means by "to such belongs the kingdom of heaven"? Also look at Matthew 18:1-5.

4. Looking at Matthew 19:16-30, what is one thing that is keeping you from experiencing the fullness of God's kingdom in your life right now?

5. Not a question, but a challenge, an encouragement: For those who are married, I would highly encourage you to join us at re|engage. It's a great place for any marriage to take its next step toward more of what God desires for husbands and wives. So come as a couple or with your community group on Wednesday nights!