October 14, 2019

Tough Love

Matthew 5:21–48

Grace Meyer
Monday's Devo

October 14, 2019

Monday's Devo

October 14, 2019

Central Truth

Restraint of our vengeful human nature is necessary to truly love our enemies, which, in turn, sets us free from the chains of bitterness.

Key Verse | Matthew 5:43-44

"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."

Matthew 5:21–48

Anger

21 You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother 1 5:22 Some manuscripts insert without cause will be liable to judgment; whoever insults 2 5:22 Greek says Raca to (a term of abuse) his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell 3 5:22 Greek Gehenna; also verses 29, 30 of fire. 23 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. 25 Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison. 26 Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny. 4 5:26 Greek kodrantes, Roman copper coin (Latin quadrans) worth about 1/64 of a denarius (which was a day's wage for a laborer)

Lust

27 You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.

Divorce

31 It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Oaths

33 Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform to the Lord what you have sworn.’ 34 But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36 And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. 37 Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil. 5 5:37 Or the evil one

Retaliation

38 You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, 6 5:40 Greek chiton, a long garment worn under the cloak next to the skin let him have your cloak as well. 41 And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. 42 Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.

Love Your Enemies

43 You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet only your brothers, 7 5:47 Or brothers and sisters. In New Testament usage, depending on the context, the plural Greek word adelphoi (translated brothers) may refer either to brothers or to brothers and sisters what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? 48 You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Footnotes

[1] 5:22 Some manuscripts insert without cause
[2] 5:22 Greek says Raca to (a term of abuse)
[3] 5:22 Greek Gehenna; also verses 29, 30
[4] 5:26 Greek kodrantes, Roman copper coin (Latin quadrans) worth about 1/64 of a denarius (which was a day's wage for a laborer)
[5] 5:37 Or the evil one
[6] 5:40 Greek chiton, a long garment worn under the cloak next to the skin
[7] 5:47 Or brothers and sisters. In New Testament usage, depending on the context, the plural Greek word adelphoi (translated “brothers”) may refer either to brothers or to brothers and sisters

Dive Deeper | Matthew 5:21–48

This basic biblical truth to love our enemy is completely countercultural, but what exactly does it mean? How do people authentically love their enemy when the offenses could be horrific or even evil? It's hard enough when they are trivial.  

When God says that you should love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, it completely changes one's perspective. Jesus said these words in the Sermon on the Mount, yet people have struggled to understand them because they're so contrary to both human nature and their culture. The Old Testament does not teach to hate one's enemy—a common misunderstanding of this quote. The Bible is consistent regarding the care for one's enemy (see Leviticus 19:18 and Proverbs 25:21). However, loving our enemies is opposite of what human nature tells us and society believes is reasonable. We all have the instincts to take justice into our own hands.

In our day, many people think it is acceptable to take revenge on "that one friend" or to treat people the exact way that they treat us. God commands us to treat our enemies how He would treat them—winsomely, with grace and love. Our instinct is to immediately fight back and defend ourselves, even when we know the right thing to do is let it go. In my life, retaliation often starts internally. I start thinking over and over again about what that sibling, friend, or competitor did to me—which results in me getting upset and lowering myself. Though it may seem equal and fair to take revenge, the Bible also says, "Do not return evil for evil." (Romans 12:17; 1 Thessalonians 5:15; 1 Peter 3:9)

God commands us to pray for those who persecute us. Whenever I put this into practice and pray for someone who has hurt me, my spirit toward them immediately changes because of God's transformative power over us. Isaiah 55:8 tells us God's ways are not our ways. There is so much freedom when we follow His commands instead of our sinful nature. As Pastor Wagner often  reminds us, "God is not trying to rip you off. He's trying to set you free."

Discussion Questions

1. Are you harboring bitterness in your heart today for someone who has hurt you? Have you confessed your own bitterness and sought forgiveness? When was the last time that you actually prayed for that person? 

2. Do you find it hard to start to pray for an enemy? Have you drawn the circle around yourself and asked God if you have a plank in your own eye (Luke 6:41-42)?

3. Do you have community to help keep you accountable with your relationships and even what you may be silently holding in your heart toward someone? Let God be the judge. He wants you to give your cares to Him! Do you believe that He can change your heart and free you from bitterness?

For further study on the radical love of real disciples, listen to our sermon on Matthew 5:33-48 from Watermark Community Church.