January 25, 2012
Central Truth
Repeat offenders can be hard to forgive, but we are called to forgive as we have been forgiven. We should forgive early and often regardless of how big or small the matter might be. If forgiveness is needed, we should offer and accept it without hesitation.
Then Peter came and said to Him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven." (Matthew 18:21-22)
1 At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” 2 And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them 3 and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.
5 Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, 6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, 1 18:6 Greek causes to stumble; also verses 8, 9 it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.
7 Woe to the world for temptations to sin! 2 18:7 Greek stumbling blocks For it is necessary that temptations come, but woe to the one by whom the temptation comes! 8 And if your hand or your foot causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life crippled or lame than with two hands or two feet to be thrown into the eternal fire. 9 And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into the hell 3 18:9 Greek Gehenna of fire.
10 See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven. 4 18:10 Some manuscripts add verse 11: For the Son of Man came to save the lost 12 What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on the mountains and go in search of the one that went astray? 13 And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray. 14 So it is not the will of my 5 18:14 Some manuscripts your Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.
15 If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed 6 18:18 Or shall have been bound shall have been loosed in heaven. 19 Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”
21 Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.
23 Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. 7 18:23 Or bondservants; also verses 28, 31 24 When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. 8 18:24 A talent was a monetary unit worth about twenty years' wages for a laborer 25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26 So the servant 9 18:26 Or bondservant; also verses 27, 28, 29, 32, 33 fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ 27 And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. 28 But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, 10 18:28 A denarius was a day's wage for a laborer and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ 29 So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ 30 He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. 31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. 32 Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ 34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, 11 18:34 Greek torturers until he should pay all his debt. 35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”
Looking back on my life, I have had plenty of opportunities to offer and require forgiveness. Historically, I had a tendency to forgive slowly despite knowing that I am called to forgive. I would find myself holding a grudge or withholding forgiveness especially if someone had repeated an offense. Imagine if Jesus Christ treated our sins and shortcomings the same way. He did not say, "Clint, that's the third strike. You've used up all your opportunities for forgiveness." He paid it all on the cross, forgiving all our sins, not just some of them.
So, then, why is it so hard to forgive someone you love or even a stranger at that? The penalty for doing so seems to be pretty evident later in Matthew 18. Christ makes it overwhelmingly clear to Peter that we are not just supposed to forgive once, twice, or even seven times. He says seventy times seven! Wow! That seems excessive to me, or at least that is what my flesh tries to tell me. How can I forgive someone that keeps doing the same thing over and over again? The answer is simple in words, but complex in understanding. We must forgive because we were first forgiven!
One aspect of forgiveness I wrestle with is accepting forgiveness and not repeatedly beating myself up over a sin I have committed. I tend to be my own worst critic regarding sin. Ultimately, I have come to the realization that truly asking Christ's forgiveness and the forgiveness of those I have wronged fulfills my end of things. No matter how many times we mess up in life, Christ still loves us. We are to model that same love to others. A great reminder of the love that makes forgiving others more clear to me can be found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-13. Remember that it is never too late to offer or accept forgiveness, and today is a great day to model that to others!
1. Do you believe that Christ's love covers all wrongs?
2. Are you letting your pride get in the way of forgiving someone who has wronged you?
3. Can you think of anyone who has asked for your forgiveness that you have not granted? What's holding you back?
4. What else are you letting interfere with forgiving someone close to you?
WEEKLY FAMILY ACTIVITY
MATTHEW 16-20 (JANUARY 23-27)
Read Matthew 18:12-14.
* What does the shepherd do if one sheep is lost? Scripture tells us that Jesus is our shepherd, and we are His sheep. Read John 10:14.
* Jesus wants all of His sheep (people) to trust Him as their Savior. Read 2 Peter 3:9.
* How do people know and hear about Jesus?
Activity: Get a roll of toilet paper. This will represent your lost sheep. Take turns hiding the "sheep" around the house and having the rest of the family look for it. Each time you find it, stop and pray for someone you know who has not trusted in Jesus as Savior.