July 14, 2009
Central Truth
Everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted. (Luke 14:11)
Do not honor yourself before the king,
and do not stand in the place of great men;
for it is better for him to say to you, “Come up here,”
than to put you lower before a prince,
whom your eyes have seen.
(Proverbs 25:6-7)
1 These also are proverbs of Solomon which the men of Hezekiah king of Judah copied.
2
It is the glory of God to conceal things,
but the glory of kings is to search things out.
3
As the heavens for height, and the earth for depth,
so the heart of kings is unsearchable.
4
Take away the dross from the silver,
and the smith has material for a vessel;
5
take away the wicked from the presence of the king,
and his throne will be established in righteousness.
6
Do not put yourself forward in the king's presence
or stand in the place of the great,
7
for it is better to be told, “Come up here,”
than to be put lower in the presence of a noble.
What your eyes have seen
8
do not hastily bring into court,
1
25:8
Or presence of a noble, as your eyes have seen. 8Do not go hastily out to court
for
2
25:8
Hebrew or else
what will you do in the end,
when your neighbor puts you to shame?
9
Argue your case with your neighbor himself,
and do not reveal another's secret,
10
lest he who hears you bring shame upon you,
and your ill repute have no end.
11
A word fitly spoken
is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.
12
Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold
is a wise reprover to a listening ear.
13
Like the cold of snow in the time of harvest
is a faithful messenger to those who send him;
he refreshes the soul of his masters.
14
Like clouds and wind without rain
is a man who boasts of a gift he does not give.
15
With patience a ruler may be persuaded,
and a soft tongue will break a bone.
16
If you have found honey, eat only enough for you,
lest you have your fill of it and vomit it.
17
Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor's house,
lest he have his fill of you and hate you.
18
A man who bears false witness against his neighbor
is like a war club, or a sword, or a sharp arrow.
19
Trusting in a treacherous man in time of trouble
is like a bad tooth or a foot that slips.
20
Whoever sings songs to a heavy heart
is like one who takes off a garment on a cold day,
and like vinegar on soda.
21
If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat,
and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink,
22
for you will heap burning coals on his head,
and the LORD will reward you.
23
The north wind brings forth rain,
and a backbiting tongue, angry looks.
24
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop
than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
25
Like cold water to a thirsty soul,
so is good news from a far country.
26
Like a muddied spring or a polluted fountain
is a righteous man who gives way before the wicked.
27
It is not good to eat much honey,
nor is it glorious to seek one's own glory.
3
25:27
The meaning of the Hebrew line is uncertain
28
A man without self-control
is like a city broken into and left without walls.
Years ago, I watched the movie Pearl Harbor and was struck by a scene in which the main character Captain Rafe McCawley arrives in Britain to fly missions over Germany. The fresh young pilot anxiously asks his commanding officer when he will be able to fly. Hardened and cynical, his commander replies, “Are all Americans as anxious to die as you are?” Rafe answers, “Not anxious to die, sir, just to matter.” I get that.
I long to matter, to be somebody; I long to be significant. The thing is, I often confuse being significant with other people thinking I'm significant. So I do things like name drop or not so subtly work through my resume of accomplishments during a conversation. I almost unconsciously share things about myself that I believe others will esteem. In Christian circles I might mention the Bible studies I’ve led or men I’ve discipled. In the business community it’s the people I know or my entrepreneurial plans after graduate school. All of this is my attempt to “stand in the place of great men.” I exalt myself so that others will think highly of me, and I can feel significant. Can you relate? What results is exhaustion and fear of failure. I spend too much time concerned with others' opinions, and I‘m driven to perform.
The game changes when I reject the lie that my significance and worth is the sum of my performance and others' opinions of me. I matter because, having believed in Christ, the God of all creation has forgiven me of all my sins, adopted me as His son, placed His Holy Spirit within me, and blessed me with every spiritual blessing. (Ephesians 1) My identity is secure in Christ and not based on anything I have, or ever will, do.
Standing securely in my identity in Christ gives me the freedom to humble myself and take the least important place at the table, trusting Christ to exalt me. “For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.” (Luke 14:11)
1. In what ways do you try to “stand in the place of great men”?
2. What things do you look to in order to feel significant?
3. Why is it so tempting to look to the opinions of others for our sense of worth?
4. How does understanding your identity in Christ lead to humility and freedom?